5 POINTS THAT WILL HELP YOU AVOID AN UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIP.
Today I will be discussing with you on 5 points that will help you avoid an unhealthy relationship.
Everyone deserves a healthy relationship, but it is crucial you know or at least have an idea of what is required for a healthy relationship to exist.
Destructive. Abusive. Toxic.
This shouldn’t be the word to be associated with any relationship, but so many people have experienced this, and some are still experiencing it.
What could be the reason for this?
This is the question many people ask themselves often.
Many male and female are caught up in the strings of abusive, toxic, and destructive, unhealthy relationships.
Some would make the same mistake over and over again without knowing they are the reason for what they are going through.
It is unfair to think only female go through unhealthy relationships; males too can be a victim of this just as the females.
One of the many reasons why many individuals find themselves in an unhealthy relationship is because they don’t know how to have a healthy relationship.
After many years of unhealthy relationships, I somehow found my way out. Though it was not easy at all, because I needed to do a lot of work on myself first, And after some time I understood what it takes to maintain and attract a healthy relationship.
As I said earlier, everyone deserves peace of mind in their relationship. Your relationship shouldn’t make you a sadist or inferior. Instead, your relationship should make you a better person. What you need is to understand what they require to exist.
The following are the five important things a healthy relationship requires:
For you to experience a healthy relationship with someone else, you need first to learn to love and appreciate yourself. You need to know who you are and love who you are. That doesn’t mean you should keep the bad habit.
In loving yourself you need to examine yourself too, if not, you might keep making more and more mistakes. When you are in a relationship, you and your spouse are not doing yourself a favor. You love each other for who you both are without fear.
You both have to appreciate yourself and examine yourselves often.
Please, self-love doesn’t mean you should be selfish, or it doesn’t say you are selfish.
Self-love is not a selfish act—it is just good stewardship of the only gift you have, the gift you were put on earth to offer to others.
When two self-Loving individuals come together, they can experience the full potential of love.
Trust is something that many relationships lack. How can you be in a relationship with someone you don’t trust?
Some individuals don’t even trust themselves. You need first to have confidence and trust yourself before going into a relationship with another person.
The stronger you are, the easier it will become to trust.
If you don’t trust your partner, first find out why you don’t trust him or her and take actions on it immediately.
Some don’t trust their partners because of their experience with the past. If you are yet to get over your past relationship, it had been better you wait until you recover before you get yourself in another relationship. Or else, your troubles might just have begun.
Everybody is not the same; their still a lot of honest and loving male and female out there. Get over the past if you want to have or maintain a healthy relationship.
Your relationship shouldn’t be built on white lies. White lies aren’t okay for your relationship.
At first, you will think it’s doing your relationship a lot of good until you notice you can’t do without lying to your partner.
Be with someone you can be honest with, who don’t care about whatever has happened in the past. Be with someone who is honest with you too, who you are sure you can take him/her for who she/he is.
Sometimes we make little mistakes in our relationship, and we don’t want our spouse to get mad at us.
Just make sure you don’t get used to white lies, it will take away your healthy relationship in the long run.
Make sure there’s no fear in your relationship, but there should be respect for each other.
True freedom in a relationship comes from the power of honesty.
It should be noted that there’s a big difference between talking to someone and talking at someone.
When communicating with your partner, you have to be careful with the level of your voice (especially men).
And no matter the distance, short or long, there must be consistent communication between you and your partner.
Lack of communication can cause a lot of damage to your relationships. It makes both of you make assumptions about what could be happening at a particular time since there’s no communication between both of you.
As time goes on without communication, the assumptions will start going wrong, and before you know, you will begin to doubt each other. With that, your relationship will be failing gradually.
When communicating with your partner, listen and don’t just wait for your turn to speak. Try to understand what your partner is saying, check your ego to make sure you are not making things difficult for your partner.
Always hear your partner out.
I grew up to know that there’s no excuse for failure. Your career should not be an excuse for breaking the connection between you and your partner.
Even if you are so fixed up, make sure you try to make things up. Don’t miss out or forget your partner birthday or special moment because of paychecks.
Your relationship must be your priority. Make sure you dedicate some time to enjoy and connect with your partner.
You must understand that unhealthy relationship was not made for anyone; we made it for ourselves, and it must stop. This type of relationship has made many people commit suicide, depression and the likes over the years.
Master the 5 points above, and you will master your relationship.
It’s time you start enjoying and not managing your relationship.
If you have any questions, additions or stories you wish to shear with me, kindly comment.
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